Virgo New Moon: Solitude and the Contented Heart

Posted & filed under Eclipses, Lunar Phases, New Moon, Virgo.

virgo-solitude-postI work at home, almost exclusively by email, phone, or Skype. From the time my husband leaves for work until he returns home in the evening I rarely exchange non-work-related words with anybody, other than a visit with my neighbor or the occasional brief chat with the UPS guy.

Recently, a gregarious friend asked me whether I get lonely working like this, spending whole days alone. “Absolutely not,” was my lightning-fast response. “It’s heaven.”

And it’s the truth. The thing I hated most about my years working in an office was being forced to socialize. I particularly loathed the never-ending office potlucks, baby showers, and retirement parties. I was at work to work, not to stand around eating cake and listening to speeches. (Though heaven knows, I have nothing anything against cake.)

Mind you, I’m not a total hermit. After all, I do have approximately 50,000 planets in Leo, a Sagittarius Ascendant, and a seventh house Moon. But when it comes to pursuing my life’s ambitions, one need look no further than my Virgo Midheaven, straddled by Mars and Pluto, to locate my abhorrence of workplace “team building” exercises. When it comes to work, I’m not a team player. At best, I’m a quiet craftswoman, toiling away in her musty studio with a cat at her feet and the phone off the hook, humming a happy and contended tune.

The Virgin is Complete

Virgo is symbolized by the virgin, a self-sufficient woman who needs no man to support her or to make her whole. Where Virgo falls in your birthchart, you are complete. Like Sun in Virgo actress Greta Garbo, who famously said, “I want to be alone,” in the matters ruled by this house you are happiest when left to your own devices. Here, you’re absorbed in the happy work of Virgo – problem solving, figuring stuff out, and making things work. It’s also, funnily enough, the area of life where people look at you with a kind of respectful awe – possibly because you don’t seem to need or care about anyone’s approval. In this part of your life, you don’t need a report card from anyone else. You’re grading yourself on an entirely different (and probably much more punishing) scale.

We wander into the bad side of Virgoland’s tracks when we go to extremes, starving or overindulging our love of solitude. As soon as a guilty voice in your head begins scolding that you “should” do something, anything other than spending time in some happy, quiet pursuit, then you’re in trouble. But when a sad voice in your head begs you not to step away from your solitude and join the human race because those interactions are just too scary, you’re also in trouble.

Virgo is a sign of adjustment and compromise, and its symbolism contains an essential truth: That having things exactly the way you want them all of the time is not a reasonable goal, or even a healthy one, and it certainly won’t make you happy. Even alone, contentedly pursuing our Virgo objectives in a hermetic cocoon, we can’t be happy forever; humans are social creatures, and every now and then we have to rub shoulders with our fellow man. Otherwise, something hardwired into the genetic code of our species turns us existentially gloomy. And as soon as we are confronted with reality by other people or simply by our own awareness of our limitations, the process of adaptation begins. In Virgo’s house we may be complete, but untrusting; we are never entirely at ease, never completely satisfied.

The Road to a Contented Heart

Look to the house in your birthchart that contains the 9th degree of Virgo. (Don’t know how to find it? See this post.) It’s time to calibrate the energy center of your life that’s represented by this house. This New Moon is also a Solar Eclipse, with the Sun and Moon entangled in challenging aspects to Mars, Saturn, and Neptune; life can feel especially crowded, hectic, and uneasy at eclipse time, with contentment seeming very far away. Eclipses demand change, especially this one, but it won’t necessarily come easily.

But neither do you have to surrender to the undertow of chaos. Take Virgo’s simple, practical approach to regaining equilibrium. If you’ve been letting others dictate your schedule and priorities, it’s time to step back, take the phone off the hook, and carve out some alone time. And if you’ve been sealing yourself off from the rest of the world for too long in a hermetic bubble of engrossing activities, force yourself out of your garret for awhile to see what the rest of the world is doing.

Overall I’m a happy hermit, spending my days alone, building my little business in solitude. But I’ve learned to recognize the moment when being comfortable has become hiding out. That’s when I force myself, however painfully, from my snug bungalow to have lunch with a friend or go to an astrology group meeting. Virgo asks us to walk a razor-thin line that separates our longing for perfect solitude from the chaos of human interaction, a path that, while uncomfortable, leads—straight and sure—to a contented heart.

© 2012/2016 April Elliott Kent

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42 Responses to “Virgo New Moon: Solitude and the Contented Heart”

  1. Lynne

    A very wise perceptive view from the wizard in the bungalow. I love it the awareness — especially from my aging well being. Thank you very much.

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  2. Terry Gemmell

    I’m a Leo Sun with a Leo Ascendant. Virgo watches over my 2nd house and it is occupied by Uranus, Mercury, and Pluto (in that order) all falling between 4 and 11 degrees. Lucky for me that I re-enrolled in college (at 53) and I have a theater class tomorrow so I’m compelled to leave the confines of my quite home and go interact with my fellow collegians. I’m excited by this particular class (an intro course) because I feel it will give me the opportunity to extend my writing towards short plays and film, which is definitely appealing to Mars who has quietly resides in my third house. Who knows, maybe It’s time I discovered what I’m going to be when I grow up!

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    • April

      Eh, growing up isn’t all it’s cracked up to be! 😀 Good luck in school, Terry. It’s a challenge to be an “older student” (I graduated college at almost 43), but you also get so much more out of it, because you bring so much rich life experience to the classroom. Enjoy!

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  3. Faith

    Well, you certainly nailed my solar tribe on the head! Happy solitude is indeed my preferred state.

    The beauty of email and the internet (I don’t include social media, it’s too easy to skim the surface) is that you can still be with friends and make new, true friends without having to be face-to-face. And if you MUST see the person’s face, there’s Skype.

    Of course for me these days, new friends start as clients, but since I’m housebound and literally can’t be in the same room with people who are wearing anything from clothing dyes to scented deodorants or new leather shoes or plastic purses…well, email is a godsend.

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    • April

      It’s very true, Faith. Without the internet I would have had a very different career path. And it’s a particular godsend for a Virgo Sun (like you) or Midheaven (like me)! An earlier generation would have thought it was strange to have friends you’ve never met, but to us it seems like the most natural thing in the world. 🙂

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  4. Alicia

    I’m curious…9 degrees Virgo falls directly on my ic, and the full moon lunar eclipse falls directly on my 10th house 24 degree pisces moon. Do you have any experience with either?

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    • April

      Hi Alicia – it sounds (from your subsequent comment) like you’re having a particularly rough eclipse/IC experience, perhaps because of the Moon being hit at the same time. I do suspect that you’ll land in a better place at the end of it all – at least, that’s been my personal experience with IC/Moon eclipses. I might suggest looking to the eclipses of 1997 for more insight; was there upheaval at home or at work, how did you handle it, how did it resolve itself? Good luck to you!

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  5. Valentina

    perfect description. bravo. I have Moon /ruler of 7th house/ in 8th in VIrgo and I agree with all you wrote. Thank you for reminding us of a precious self sufficient virgin that we all have inside of ourselves.

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  6. Ruthie

    Your description of your work style makes me laugh!

    I almost never met my husband because despite working at the same place he was always “too busy” working or going to the gym to join in any of the social activities. His chart is full of virgo planets. He’s still like that at work and now at home, always working on something or teaching the baby something, never really caring if he misses out on all the fun parties I sneak off to 🙂

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    • April

      Ha! My husband and I have tons of Leo and Libra planets between us, but a few crucial ones in Virgo – and our composite chart is all Virgo, all the time. We’re both workaholics, though he’s a little better about breaking for parties or socializing! 😀

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  7. Sara

    Hi April, thanks for that illuminating description of Virgo – I have no planets at all in Virgo, so my understanding has tended to be a little limited. 9 degrees Virgo falls in my 5th house, which is also completely empty. I am not a performer :). However, I also don’t require much in the way of applause, and nor am I crowd pleaser. I just do my own thing, and people who get it do, and the rest don’t matter.

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    • April

      Exactly, Sara – with Virgo/5th, it’s more important to please yourself by creating something really rare and exquisite. Fewer people are going to appreciate it, but it’s personally very satisfying!

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  8. BERNARD CHARLES

    OH wow! I guess this explains very much so how I carry myself in the world haha. This makes sense now that I sit and think about it. Well, people see me as complete and I, for the most part, enjoy the solitude and being much like The Hermit. We walk this same line haha!

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  9. Sarah

    Virgo sun Leo moon Aquarius rising It feel like this has been way to out of norm for awhile now life April but what you say about Virgo is True I don’t want the spot light I want the back ground work or just let me get it done thing I have a Pieces husband and at times I just want to say Really and trying to find a job that fits that with out it killing you work wise has been a challenge being a warehouse stocker I could do my job and get it done but now my body is saying no more of that . This month is going to be interesting for sure thank you April I love your blogs . you have a wonderful gift .

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  10. Gretchen

    I keep having eclipses in my 1st and 7th house. Is this usual? Does everyone eclipse in these corresponding houses 1 and 7, 2 and 8, 3 and 9 etc… Does my question make sense?

    I have a virgo rising, and this eclipse is…right there! The last eclipse was on my Sun (back in march was it?) and my sun is in the 7th house too. So these seem odd that they keep sitting in the same sign and house as the eclipses.

    I guess I am juggling the dynamic

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    • April

      Gretchen, eclipses spend about 1.5 years in each sign axis. At the moment, the eclipses are pinging between Virgo and Pisces. In a year or so, they’ll back into Leo and Aquarius (because they’re associated with the lunar nodes, eclipses move backward through the chart relative to other transits). So yes, they will touch a lot of the same houses and points over and over again for a year and half, then move on to the next houses and points.

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      • Gretchen

        Ahh thank you for answering my questions! So next year my Leo moon and Mercury in Aquarius will be getting the spotlight!

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  11. Sylvia Bogart

    This is a great thought! I must think about it for awhile. I like that. My 9th degree of Virgo is in the sixth house conjunct Pluto, trine Natal Venus in the 10th conjunct the mid-heaven with transiting Pluto in a loose conjunction, sextile Neptune in the 12th, square my solar return double Saturn in the 8th which is the pivotal point of a grand trine with my Ascendant, then the Moon conjunct Uranus in the 5th. As you can see I am twisting in several different directions at this time,. I believe in the Infinity symbolism. I saw a great race once that was actually set up in that twisting symbol (not intentional, I am sure) and there was this custom built GTO that I just knew was going to win, although all of the odds were against it. As we watched with baited breath the dust began to build, it was a dirt track, then out of the curve into the light the GTO came roaring out. The message was; “You are never beaten unless you quit” I have never forgotten it, and I do believe that I cut my teeth on controversy. The time is now, although, in order to do that I must find the comfortable middle ground of being in the cave and out there in the social media. It is a tough one. I like my cave. Blessed Be. Thanks for the message.

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    • April

      Yeah, I like my cave too, Sylvia. I hear you. If it weren’t for tons of Leo planets I’d never leave the house. 🙂

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  12. Alice

    Thanks April for sharing your insight and experience. I’m looking at my Moonshadow report now regarding the Virgo influence you’re talking about. I definitely feel the stress.

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    • April

      Mercury Rx through this eclipse season has definitely made things more stressful, Alice – hope it’s beginning to ease for you!

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  13. Gretchen

    I forgot to finish my thought! I am juggling the dynamic of self and partnership. They are so similar yet so opposite! I am feeling like I may need to spend more time giving myself a break. A Virgo rising doesn’t let you have a break though! Shes always watching and scolding! My Pisces sun offers her a glass of wine and then she loosens up a bit.

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  14. Marianne

    9*24 Virgo rising here – Pluto 10*12 Virgo. This is extra significant? In a good way or a bad way? I have been quite comfortable in my cocoon for the past couple years, especially after a brutal t.Pluto opposite my Cancer Moon for FIVE hits!!! I feel quite torn about getting out and staying put. I am traveling out of state at the end of the month, that counts for double points!! I want more than what I’ve been doing, but I don’t feel motivated to do so. 😕

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    • April

      Those Pluto transits can be just awful, Marianne! Add an eclipse hit to natal Ascendant/Pluto, and the universe is really twisting your arm. No wonder you just want to hide in your cocoon after all those Pluto/Moon transits. Hopefully traveling out of state will appease the eclipse/Ascendant gods, who generally favor some kind of movement!

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  15. Susan

    I love your work April. I just got a moon report from you and cannot say how helpful it was for me to understand much more fully what was and has been happening for me at the eclipses over a good number of years. You are wonderful. Thank you!

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    • April

      That is so kind, Susan; I appreciate that so much, and I’m very glad the report helped you understand the eclipses in your chart a little better!

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  16. Alicia

    I received a registered letter in the mail on Sept 1st that contained a notice of eviction. Ever since jupiter has been in my 4th house I’ve had roommate problems….both times my roommate left the apartment and left me behind with a landlord who refuses to transfer the lease. So yes, my space is larger…but not desireable circumstances. Well, just wanted to give a real life example of a solar eclipse on the ic.

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    • April

      So sorry to hear it, Alicia. Eclipses on the IC can indeed bring unexpected – and unpleasant – surprises. One year when I had that one I had to move twice in three months. I hope you have found a soft place to land.

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  17. April

    Yikes!! In typical Mercury-now-direct fashion, I just found a ton of comments waiting to be approved! Sorry, all, for the delay in responding. – April

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  18. Karen

    April, I really enjoy your talent and the gifts you share here on your site. You have such a wonderful way of approaching astrology! This eclipse was conjunct my 4th house/IC and I was not sure what to expect. 19 years ago….I was planning a big renovation for the space I love the most and the people I love that fill that space – my home and family! Here I am ready to update and declutter for the next ? number of years. I would like to think another 19 but that would be pushing it! Thanks for helping me understand why I feel so at home working out life here!

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