Libra Full Moon: Befriending the Enemy

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by April Elliott Kent

befriendingAstrologers are fond of observing that a Libra is nothing more than an Aries who’s been to charm school. Libra is every bit as determined as his fellow cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, and Capricorn) to get what he wants. But unlike those signs, Libra has the ability to make it look as though serving his own needs is the furthest thing from his mind.

That isn’t meant as a criticism, by the way. I admire the strategy. My mother was born with Libra rising, and she had the iron fist in the velvet glove routine down pat. For years, I watched her put this skill to use securing contributions for fundraising events on behalf of her favorite charity. She overcame any resistance with sunny charm, pretending not to notice reluctance or impatience coming from the other end of the telephone, and refusing to be intimidated. By pretending that others wanted to be helpful, she persuaded them to be so. In the end, she always got what she was after – and nearly always, earned another fan in the process.

With this Libra Full Moon facing off against a Mongol horde of planets (the Sun, Venus, Mars, and Uranus) in ferocious Aries – and all of them square unyielding Pluto in Capricorn –  conflict resolution is the order of the day. I’ve been thinking about the best way to deal with people who make me angry, as well as those whose interests are diametrically opposed to my own. One hesitates to call them “enemies;” it sounds so dramatic. But let’s face it, that’s what an enemy is: one whose interests conflict with yours.

As mom was fond of saying, “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.” And as every Libran knows, there’s more than one way to defeat an opponent. The 15th century Roman Emperor Sigismund was admonished by his Prime Minister when instead of destroying his captured enemies, he brought them into his court. It’s said that he replied, “Do I not most effectually destroy my enemies, in making them my friends?” It’s a quotation often attributed to Abraham Lincoln, and though I couldn’t find a source for it, it does sound like the kind of thing he would have said, famous as he was for forging unlikely political alliances.

But when I think about befriending people whose opinions, lifestyles, or politics are abhorrent to me, some flinty part of me digs in its heels and refuses to give in, loathe to give the impression of surrender. Why do most of us find it so difficult to befriend our enemies – and why is that those with Libra prominent in their birth charts often succeed where we fail?

In traditional astrology, Libra is said to be the sign of the Sun’s “fall” – meaning, it’s one of the signs in which the Sun’s innate qualities of pride and ego are least able to express themselves. Unlike prideful Leo (the sign of the Sun’s rulership) and headstrong, impulsive Aries (sign of the Sun’s exaltation), Libra has the ability to strategically suppress his ego in order to get what he wants.

With lots of impatient Aries planets on a collision course with Pluto, the potential for animosity and frustration over the next couple of weeks is enormous. It’s the kind of celestial atmosphere that suggests full-scale emotional meltdown. Picture four planets in Aries, like frustrated toddlers, falling down on their fannies, kicking their feet in the air, and screaming until they turn purple.

How to soothe four irate toddlers at once – or even one screaming customer, road-rageous fellow motorist, or internet flamethrower? By first making a friend of the enemy inside you – the stubborn, prideful, impulsive, and ego-driven part of you that stands in opposition to your best interests. Befriend that part of yourself, and you’ll have transformed your worst enemy into a strong, passionate ally. Once you’re fully at peace with yourself, you can respond to the rage, frustration, and stubbornness of others with kindness, even charm—fully expecting them to behave better, to be better. Not everyone will rise to meet your expectations —but at least you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing that you did.

© 2011, 2013 April Elliott Kent
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16 Responses to “Libra Full Moon: Befriending the Enemy”

  1. Mimi

    I LOVE this line “Mars in Aries is running full speed toward the brick wall of Saturn in Libra”… it is so creative and so descriptive that even a non-astrologer would relate to it. Wonderful article!

  2. Jennifer

    Nice imagery!! I have been noticing that I am better to just “smile and nod” at most “screaming toddlers” lately than to express my opinion. I bite my tongue so that I don’t bite their heads off!

  3. helen

    oh April, thanks for making me laugh..seeing things about myself in your articles i have never seen before…
    “Saturn in Libra’s side of the astrological ring, facing off against a Mongol horde of planets ..the Sun, Mercury, … Jupiter….in ferocious Aries…” Yikes, that’s me every day! never thought of myself as ferocious (not as an Aries, my dark side is something else)..though i must say, the vast plains of Mongolia do hold certain appeal… those wide open spaces…okaaaay, so it’s true, sometimes i get so tired of pretending to be civilized 🙂

  4. adreanna

    Hysterical Libra is nothing more than Aries with manners, that is a heck of an image. However for those of us with Aries rising isn’t this a good thing for now? I mean when mercury rx, and the libra stuff I have a sister who appears to be charming and bless her rarely has a negative word for anyone, for the small things she does for others however she does indeed seem to get alot back.

  5. April

    Thanks for your wonderful comments, Mimi, Dar, Jennifer, Helen, and Adreanna! I apologize for taking so long to respond; the Aries brigade have had me running at full speed since the Full Moon! Yesterday was especially rough, but today’s Sagittarius Moon and all its lovely aspects has made for a much brighter and more optimistic change of mood. 🙂 May we all handle the “Mongol hordes” with grace and good humor!

  6. Shannon

    “Libra is nothing more than an aries thats been to charm school” (lol. how true). I love the dog standing over the cat.( perfect imagery for a libra who has aries inside them) Love this because Im a Libra rising also…so I could relate to what you were saying about your mom lol She is right! “You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar!!”

  7. Sara Foley

    ha! I also loved the line “libra is nothing more than an aries that’s been to charm school”. Hilarious! I have a libran moon and an aries rising (and taurus sun), and as i get older I have discovered an ability to work constructively with people that I can’t stand – as long as we have a common purpose, i can put away my personal dislike. my double aries partner just shakes his head in amazement. How do you work with him/her? he asks me. I have always lamented his almost complete lack of charm and grace. sigh.

  8. Nancee

    My mantra these days (early Aries rising) is, “No contest.” Let the angry power-hungry people kick themselves in the foot. I can battle effectively with most anyone, but I need the energy to make the changes I need to make. Just knowing where to throw your energy helps, not just useless energy blasts onto things/people that waste it.

  9. julie pittman

    Aloha April, I just LOVE what you write/think of ! I’ve had an incridible urge to have a grown up pajama party with some very talented musician friends of mine….perhaps I secretly want to put those wild toddlers into their cozy pj’s and bring out the wild fun in them instead….! Boy that Pieces line up was starting to be just too much…am soo glad to have some of this nice get up with it energy…stay creative….mahalo julie

  10. Jane

    I am an Aries with Libra rising and very happy with the whole full moon potpourri.
    We are rolling along quite well with all the planet participants in my head taking turns playing fair and having fun, The thing i Like about Aries is that they will mostly fight for the underdog. Even if it happens to be me. We like to see things turn out fair and square.
    Thanks for the encouraging insights.

  11. sionan

    Having venus/mars/neptune and saturn in my 5th house.. and Jupiter in Aries in my 10th..This full moon is severely kicking my ass! I SO want to be doing something creative-physical-teaching ballet (my “retired from art”).. and I’m managing a veterinary clinic ..and feeling unfulfilled.. ah well breath.. I love your Libra is Aries with charm school!
    Thanks for the great insights!

  12. sionan

    Forgot to mention the obvious- all those planets are of course in Libra and within 10 degrees of each other ;-D

  13. Daniel

    Nice blog. I am a Pisces and I have rising of sag and 5 plants in Aries; lol let me tell you that I am always on the move

  14. Lauren Sage Balin

    This is pure wisdom April…..I know because I just retired from teaching elementary school for the past 15 years and this was my greatest lesson. It helps to have Mars in Libra square Moon in Cancer….facing up to my own inner tantrums allows me to empathize with others while their having theirs.
    Yesterday I woke up with a massive headache too as the Uranus/Sun Full Moon was T-squaring my square at exactly 6 deg. This is what I posted so as to lighten my bad self up.”Sometimes when the Moon hits your eye like a bigga pizza pie….you just get a bigga pizza headache!”

  15. Jack M

    This is amazing! As a person with one degree of Libra rising, I am delighted at how accurately you have portrayed me and the current planetary weather! I have been banged about by Pluto and Uranus for a while now, and am shell-shocked. Making peace with myself seems like the last thing that would work, but I’ll give it a try (wish me luck, LOL!).


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