As I write this,
Jonny and I have been married for almost four months.
For those of you who haven't experienced it first hand, what
everybody says is true: marriage is incredibly difficult,
even when you're relatively mature and married to someone
you adore and with whom you're essentially compatible.
Saturn has let up on us a bit, but transiting Pluto will continue
to oppose our composite Moon for the next year, so we're looking
forward to more changes, more challenges, more plumbing problems.
When I was single,
everybody told me "Don't worry, there's a guy out there for
you, and you'll find him when you're not even looking for
him." Please. I'm a Leo. My moon is in the
seventh house. When was I not going to be looking for
him? I know everyone meant well, and eventually they
were proven right (except that it happened when I was
looking for someone, very hard--I was just looking in the
wrong places!)--but you know what? I was getting really
sick of hearing it.
Now that I'm married,
my faith has been restored. And when I see eclipses
and other possible indicators lining up in an unmarried client's
chart, I'm tempted to tell them that yes, I think the chances
are good they'll march down the aisle soon. But I try
to hold my tongue and focus instead on the work they need
to do to prepare for this profound change in their life--really,
a process of rebirth. I think they want to hear good
news, but they've been disappointed so often that they won't
really believe it until it happens anyway.
And why should they? Each chart is different, and the
indicators that described my marriage (and have, with some
obvious differences, described similar events for many of
my friends, family members, and clients), may nonetheless
prove to be quite different from theirs. After all,
my story is just that--the one they tell will be their
own.
